April, 2000 Volume 3, Issue 2
A Newsletter for Families in Transition
Dollars and Sense:
The Education IRA is Good News for College Savers

by Gordon Gaster

There is a new way to save money for college costs -- the "Education IRA." Unlike the Individual Retirement Account (IRA) you may hold now, the Education IRA has nothing to do with retirement. However, the concept is similar.

The Taxpayer Relief Act of 1997, which created the Education IRA starting in 1998. allows eligible individuals to contribute up to $500 each calendar year on behalf of any child under the age of 18. Any earnings will then grow on a tax-deferred basis. When money is taken out of an Education IRA, the distribution is tax-free as long as it does not exceed the child's qualified higher education expenses (including tuition, fees, books, and basic room and board).

How the Education IRA Works

In 1999, single taxpayers with adjusted gross income (AGI) less than $95,000, or couples filing jointly with AGI less than $150,000 are eligible to make the maximum contribution to an Education IRA. The permissible contribution gradually phases out for single taxpayers as their AGI rises from $95,000 to $110,000 and for couples jointly filing as their income rises from $150,000 to $160,000.

Parents may establish an Education IRA for each of their children. Grandparents, other relatives or friends may also establish an Education IRA for a child. In fact, anyone, including the child, who meets the income eligibility requirements may contribute to help a child build a nest egg for college. Keep in mind, however, that $500 per child per year is the maximum aggregate amount that may be contributed for all contributors.

If a child does not need or use the Education IRA for college, the account balance may be rolled over to the Education IRA of certain family members who may use it for their qualified higher education expenses. The child himself or herself may also withdraw funds; however, the portion of the distribution that represents earnings accumulated in the account generally is subject to income taxes. The taxable portion of the withdrawal is also subject to a 10% premature distribution tax penalty, unless an exception applies.

With the rising cost of higher education, now may be the time to look into opening an Education IRA for each of your children or grandchildren.

For free advice on how to begin planning to protect and care for your children contact Gordon Gaster with Morgan Stanley Dean Witter at 1-800-326-4697. He has plans for all income levels.

This article does not constitute tax or legal advice. Investors should consult their tax or legal advisors before making any tax- or legally related investment decisions. This article is published for general informational purposes and is not an offer or solicitation to sell or buy any securities or commodities. Any particular investment should be analyzed based on its terms and risks as they relate to a specific investor's circumstances and objectives.

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Time and Child Support

by Timothy Gaskill, Esq.

Effective October 1, 1999, the Florida Legislature, in all its wisdom and glory, amended Florida Statutes 61.30(1)(a) and 61.30(11)(b) to allow trial judges more discretion when it comes to increasing or decreasing child support obligations. There is no question that the desired objective was achieved but at what cost?

When child support guidelines were first adopted 10 or more years ago, they were hailed as a way to decrease the high cost of litigating over the appropriate amount of support to be paid to the custodial parent. With the guidelines, one would simply determine the parties' combined net monthly income and then go across the chart to the appropriate number of children and there it was. No fuss. No Muss.

Realizing that it was not an exact science, the legislature allowed the judges some discretion (plus or minus 5%) if he or she made specific findings as to why it was justified in a particular case.

Additionally, if a child spent 28 or more consecutive days with the non-custodial parent, the child support for that period could be reduced by 50% if the court, in its discretion, deemed it appropriate.

With the recent amendment, the court's discretion has now been broadened to allow a variance from the guidelines if a child spends "a substantial amount of time with each parent." As a result of this amendment, and the fact that more parents are either working at home or taking advantage of flex time and can spend more time with their children, either as a custodial parent or a non-custodial parent, the exactness of predicting the amount of child support has vanished.

The downside of this problem will be the added cost of arguing over the amount of the variance in each and every case. Until the appellate courts start ruling on these cases and, hopefully establishing some parameters, each case will have to be decided on its own special formula.

The standard visitation schedule used in Palm Beach County contemplates that a non-custodial parent will have visitation every other weekend and one day during the week for a few hours. If this is the schedule adopted or used in a particular case, a variance will, in all likelihood, not be granted.

However, if instead of every other weekend the parties agree that the visitation would be every weekend, then a variance could be considered, since it means the non-custodial parent would be spending "a substantial amount of time" with the children that was originally contemplated by the child support guidelines.

Likewise, if the non-custodial parent keeps the children the entire summer rather than the contemplated six weeks, the variance would be in order. If the visitation schedule causes the children to be with the non-custodial parent more than 50% of the time, either on an hourly or daily basis, a variance should be granted.

If the non-custodial parent provides more than 50% of the meals or spends extra time transporting the children to and from school, or extracurricular events, then a variance would be appropriate.

There are probably many more situations that would justify a variance, but unfortunately, they will have to be handled on a case-by-case basis which may require the parents to weigh the amount of savings against the litigation costs to obtain same. The amendment applies to a variance for an increase as well so that the custodial parent can seek an increase if he or she is spending substantially more time with the children than was originally planned.

Hopefully, in the next six to twelve months, the appellate courts will give us some criteria for granting a variance.

Timothy W. Gaskill is a partner in the law firm of DeSantis, Gaskill, Smith & Shenkman, P.A., located at 11281 U.S. Highway One, North Palm Beach, Florida. Mr. Gaskill is a Board Certified Trial Attorney and may be reached at 561-622-2700.

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Preserve your Child's Well-Being

By Bill Ferguson

Divorce can be very traumatic for children. Fortunately, there is a lot you can do to minimize the damage. Here are some tips for how to preserve your children's well being.
  1. Do everything you can to have the family unit continue. To a child, the loss of family represents the loss of security and well being. Do everything you can to heal your relationship with the other parent so you can work together for your children. Support your children as a family even though you live in different places. make sure your children know that they will always be loved and taken care of.
  2. Let your children know that it's okay to love both parents. Don't make them choose between Mom and Dad. Children need to have a supportive relationship with both parents. Encourage your children's involvement with the other parent and with other significant family members. Children should feel comfortable having full access to both parents and family members through email, letters, telephone calls and personal visits. Encourage communication.
  3. Reinforce the idea that your children have two homes. Children should feel that they have a special home with each parent. They should never have to choose which home is better or which is their "real home." Don't criticize or judge your children's other home. Also, make sure your children have a special place in your home that belongs to them even if it's just a section of a room.
  4. Let your children know that you will always love them. Do this in both your words and your actions. When divorce occurs, children often lose their sense of security. They wonder, "If Mom and Dad can stop loving eachother, they can stop loving me." Children need to know that they are loved. They need to understand that the love between a parent and a child is different than between a husband and a wife. Make sure your children feel that they will be loved no matter what.
  5. Tell your children that the divorce is not their fault. Children tend to blame themselves for the breakup. They believe that they caused the divorce. Make sure you tell your children that this isn't true. Tell them that the divorce is not their fault and that there is nothing they can do to change or fix the situation. Love your children enough to tell them this more than once.
  6. Maintain a good working relationship with the other parent. Act respectfully towards the other parent and stay focused on the best interest of your children. Avoid exposing your children to heated debates, insults, and other forms of conflict. Arrange times to discuss important issues when the children won't overhear. Stay in communication with each other and work to heal your relationship, one human being to another.
  7. Keep the other parent advised on all important matters. Don't make this your child's responsibility. Divorce is a confusing time for children. They should not be burdened with supplying information between households. Make sure you provide the other parent sufficient details regarding school functions, extracurricular activities and special events whenever possible. Children need to be supported by both of you.
  8. Make it easy for your children to express their feelings. Let them feel their hurt and let them say whatever they want to say about their situation. Listen to them. Don't judge them, suppress them or talk them out of their feelings. Let them express their emotions and their concerns. Let them know that it's okay to feel sad, and let them know that you are always available to talk.
  9. Speak positively about the other parent. Avoid criticizing or saying anything negative about the other person. Children literally view themselves as half mom and half dad. When children hear negative remarks about one of their parents, they internalize it. They consider it an attack against themselves. When anger makes it difficult to say anything positive about the other person, don't say anything at all. This holds true for remarks concerning step-parents, grandparents, extended family members and any other significant person in your children's lives.
  10. Allow your children to stay children. Do not use your children as a source of emotional support or make them your confidant. Children should not be exposed to information regarding court matters, child support, financial concerns or intimate details regarding your divoce. Let them be children.

Bill Ferguson is a former divorce attorney who gained national attention for his ability to remove adversaries and heal relationships, and he was featured on Oprah.

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Parents #1 Influence In Child's Life

by Candy Waring

Parents, you are your child's first and most influential teacher. you have more impact on your child's attitude toward learning than any other person on the planet.

It's a responsibility that's not to be taken lightly. Studies show that how a parent talks about and acts toward school has a direct impact on the child's performance.

In Ms. Cleveland's kindergarten class, for instance, Adam comes into class so excited with a new fact each day. He and his mom go the the library a couple of times a month and check out books on one theme. Adam then brings in one or more of the books and enthusiastically tells spellbinding stories about rocks or trains or dinosaurs. This type of enthusiasm for learning increases Adam's skills and ability to grasp new concepts.

His mother's involvement and willingness to participate in Adam's education, directly affects Adam's positive progression in school.

Your enthusiasm and involvement affect your child. you don't have to be a rocket scientist to be involved. All you have to do is be there to encourage, praise, participate and smile.

Your example shouts at your child without saying a word. Imagine what thirty minutes a day could do. Here are some simple ways in which to encourage your child to excel in school.

  • Go to the library together
  • Turn off the TV
  • Go to the grocery store together; have your child read the list and find specific items; total the cost
  • Read together for 15 minutes a day
  • Discuss the school day
  • Volunteer for a school event; mentor a student
  • Praise your child's effort, not the grade achieved
  • Display important work on the refrigerator
  • Look at your child's school work; discuss what was learned

Most of these suggestions take less than 30 minutes. It's well worth the time and energy to help your child succeed in school and life.

Candy Waring is a Florida Certified elementary teacher who has witnessed the pain of divorce through the eyes of her students for the past 15 years.

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